Reeling and Healing Midwest Blog

I was not sure what to expect at the retreat, but my limited expectations were blown out of the water.  Not only did I get to learn the sport of fly fishing - which I always wanted to try - but I discovered things about myself that I will take with me always as this experience has changed my outlook.  I am hopeful that I have made some lasting friendships and connections that will last a lifetime.  Thank you all for this experience - it was wonderful and made such an impact on all of us. - 2008 Participant

This retreat has been refreshing to my soul.  I was able to leave all stresses of home there.  All cancer survivors should be able to experience this. - 2008 Participant

I’ll admit, I was intimidated. The idea of spending three days introducing 15 women to the sport of fly fishing was a little much. In addition these women were from different backgrounds, different ages, in different degrees of health and in different stages of a shared disease. And finally, and the piece-de-resistance, I would be one of the only males. What’s a guy to do?

During the preceding weeks, and all the way up until the first participant arrived, I was running scenario after scenario through my head. What do i do in case this happens, or this, or, god forbid, that?! I have taught dozens and dozens of people how to fly fish, often times in groups, but this was a whole new ballgame. As I said, I was intimidated.

So, how did it turn out you may be wondering? In short, it was a very special experience. The biggest part of it was not the fishing. It was being there. Yes, the fishing was fun and the chance to pass along knowledge and experiences to potential new devotees of a sport I love was enjoyable enough alone. The chance to spend some time on a lovely piece of trout water was also great. It all pales in comparison to the people. Those same people whom I spent hours and hours worrying about. How is that for irony?

Of course I did my share of carrying things from here to there, getting water, keeping track of equipment and other sorts of things. All the volunteers did. Those types of tasks are rewarding on their own. But it was being in the water with the participants - that’s where real special things happened. Women who normally have difficulty walking, relishing the river pushing against their legs. Or women who would cast their fly and actually see a trout rise - only to forget to set the hook because they turned to share a smile that a trout was “out there.” I watched their faces light up as the river worked its magic.

Out of the river, listening to them laugh and cry while talking with others, was…educational. Even I blushed a few times overhearing a few things (you know who you are).

I have done as much thinking about that time and those women since as before. Now I run things that happened over and over in my mind and it brings a smile. I am just as anxious as before. Anxious to do it again.

-DGM, Volunteer & River Guide

Never in my wildest dreams did I believe

…I would fly fish.

…I would be treated like a queen.

…I would make new friends.

…I would be able to share my story.

…I would be accepted for who I am, right here, right now.

…I would overcome so much doubt.

…I would laugh so much.

…I would find healing through nature’s beauty.

…I would have so much fun and experience joy.

Thank you for guiding me to renew my spirit and hope. I will forever keep the retreat adventure close to my heart and find on-going great strength from my experience in the river.

FISH ON!

-A Very Grateful Participant

A great new article has been published talking about Reeling & Healing Midwest and how it helps survivors on their healing journey. Our own Ruthanne T. is quoted.
Read the full article here.

EIGHT HIGHLIGHTS of HEALING

- Healing is a lifelong journey toward wholeness.

- Healing is remembering what has been forgotten about connection, and unity and interdependence among all things living and nonliving.

- Healing is embracing what is most feared.

- Healing is opening what has been closed, softening what has hardened into obstruction.

- Healing is entering into the transcendent, timeless moment when one experiences the divine.

- Healing is creativity and passion and love.

- Healing is seeking and expressing self in its fullness, its light and shadow, its male and female.

- Healing is learning to trust life.

From The Four-Fold Ways

A woman in harmony

with her spirit

is like a river flowing.

She goes where she will

without pretense and arrives

at her destination,

prepared to be herself

and only herself.

You know who you are,

where you have come from

and where you are going.

You show such grace

and assurance and

I am glad to know you.

-Maya Angelou

In the presence of women - I feel at home, comfortable,relaxed

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In the presence of women - I see foreheads soften, smiles widen, eyes glisten, hearts soar and souls touch

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In the presence of women - words of wisdom tumble, laughter is unleashed, creativity exudes

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In the presence of women - I can smell muffins baking, coffee brewing and sweet perfume

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In the presence of women - wrinkles are beautiful, soft tummies acceptable, laughlines delightful

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In the presence of women - breezes are gentler, colors are brighter, friendship is magical, flowers dance and the sun shines

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So sit often, in the presence of women

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-Tess Marshall

And this Queen did wear them when she fished in her waders and waxed Barbour coat.

It cannot cripple LOVE

It cannot shatter HOPE

It cannot corrode FAITH

It cannot destroy PEACE

It cannot kill FRIENDSHIP

It cannot suppress MEMORIES

It cannot silence COURAGE

It cannot invade the SOUL

It cannot steal ETERNAL LIFE

It cannot conquer the SPIRIT